Stripping Stories: Humilation (and How to Deal with It)!
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Jun
21
2010
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When people find out that I’m a professional exotic dancer (yep, that’s me to the left), many of them ask me to relate my most interesting stripping stories. Humiliation, unfortunately, has played a part in a few of them! It’s easy to sit back and pretend that nothing embarrassing ever happens, but chances are that it will (I mean, we do dance in 5” heels!)
Embarrassment happens in every profession, but it doesn’t have to be a job killer (or even a mood killer.) How you walk away from the situation, whatever it may be, depends entirely on your personality and sense of humor.
Let’s look at a few examples of potentially awful situations you could face during a shift. How you deal with them will determine whether you save face and make a few fans in the process, or whether you sulk from the stage with your proverbial tail between your legs. Only one of these reactions is going to make you any money, so choose wisely!
One of my most memorable embarrassments was while it was “that time of month”, and I was so busy that I lost track of time because I was working away, doing so well, and OOPS! One of my fellow dancers took me by the hand and into the bathroom. The good thing is that she saved me from too many customers seeing my bloodstains! LOL!
Let’s say that you’re working your way through the second song in your first set. You’re shimmying that cute little negligee down your hips and over your feet. You step out with one foot, kick the other one out to fling the lacy fabric down the stage, and… WHAM! You land on your butt because the new girl didn’t know she shouldn’t wear baby oil to work.
It happens. Now, what are you going to do about it? Your first reaction (after the “OW!”) is probably going to be complete humiliation. But before you even get back up, remind yourself that EVERY stripper is going to trip and fall at some point in her career. Chances are that two-thirds of the girls you work with have done exactly that, and the other third just haven’t been around long enough.
Stripping is a performance, and as with any other, the show must go on. Instead of looking hurt, getting up and walking off stage, just glance up and make eye contact with the gentlemen sitting nearest you at the tip rail. Put on your biggest, cutesiest smile, shrug with a “Whoopsie!”, then flip around so they can get a good view as you rub your poor, red hiney.
Another too-common example is heckling by a jerk in the audience. Maybe he likes women with a different figure, or you remind him of his ex-wife—whatever. He’s hurling insults from the safety of his chair, trying to get his buddies to jump in and hoping to get you riled up enough to make an ass of yourself.
Instead of letting him get to you, you can either ignore him completely and focus your attention on the guys or gals that appreciate you, or you can turn the situation around by exclaiming, “Oh, goody! It’s Opposites Day!” and dancing entirely for him!
If the heckler doesn’t feel like he’s getting anywhere with his attempts to embarrass you, he’s going to shut up and move on.
I remember one instance when I was dieting down for a photo shoot and looking pretty buff and beautiful, and this women at the stage said, “OMG she looks like a MAN!”
Now in the part of the country where I was working at the time, fitness wasn’t exactly mainstreamed, so if a woman is even TONE, other women in the audience get jealous! Well, a man overheard her in the audience and said, “honey, if you are a man then I will be gay every day of the week darlin!” And we simply chuckled about it!
Instead of losing tips for the entire night by walking offstage or getting huffy (which the crowd will remember), you’re going to gain tips all night because you handled your embarrassment with grace and a sense of humor—which the crowd will remember!
Men usually find a little embarrassment charming in a girl, so you may as well work it to your advantage. Just understand that real embarrassment is the opposite of confidence, and is absolutely the last thing you want to lose!
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LOL this happened to me one night i was sharing a stage with my friend when I slipped on an oil spot like you were saying and I went sprawling on the floor, i was so embarrased and didnt know what to do but my friend did!!! she just crawled over me and made like it was part of the act and we made out like lesbians for a minute or two until I could get back on my feet. men really love that, we made more money that night than ever!!!!
LOL in most clubs making out with another chick on stage may not fly, but I suppose if you turned the situation into great entertainment and turned the bad into good, that is what we are looking for! Yes men definitely look towards two or more women who are together entertaining. This brings up the point of group sales/interaction. It is always good to have a tag-team strategy with one of the girls being the driver and the other the supporter. Sign in and you will get GREAT videos on this kind of stuff in the Champagne Inner Circle!
i think i would like to do this but im going to college in the fall and i dont know what i do when the guys in my classes find out i’m a stripper? im a little embarased and worried what they would think? and i know they would find out bc they go to strip clubs you know!!! but it look like fun and good money so i don know…….
Well, I don’t care what anyone thinks, I’m sick to death of being a starving student. If this can make me some extra money and I can schedule it around my classes, then I’m going to look into it!!!
Maria – Good concern! Things aren’t the way that they used to be. This is the 21st century and largely a woman’s new world, so if you take this seriously as a business and a profession then no one has the right to judge you. It WILL happen, but you just have to know how to deal with it —- which is not to deal with it at all!
I went through this when I first started dancing and most people who judge are jealous of your looks or of your income. We have a constitutional 1st amendment right to express ourselves through exotic dance, and two large chains are publicly traded on NASDAQ. If anyone ever gives you a hard time, just blow them off and continue on towards your success! They are not worth the trouble
Renne – LOL I know how you feel! Stripping is one of the best ways to pay cash for your college and live a great lifestyle while you are going to school, because you will be able to go on trips, eat where you want, afford the clothes and books you need, and live in a good part of town. But most importantly, you will be able to SAVE your money if you implement a management system and have a “go to hell” fund and also money after you graduate, and money to invest if you choose.
hell i am fat i wish i could be a strippper
This is to shirley… I’m a big girl too and I have decided to take some striping classes to get into shape. A lot of studios have privet or small class sizes so u need not be embarrased… plus I have looked at pictures online and have seen lots of bigger women working the pole! It’s all about confidence and attitude!
Working in a club that hires girls with a variety of body types and ethnic backgrounds pretty much eliminates heckling. Customers quickly see that there’s “a little bit of everything,” so complaining is futile. Hecklers should also be thrown out or at the very least warned to stop. Any club that allows such individuals to stay and continue to misbehave is a club that doesn’t respect their girls.