Check Us Out at The “I Got Love For Ya” Show On the Planet Platypus Radio Network!
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May
14
2013
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Aaron Duarte is the HEAD DJ at Jaguars in Phoenix, AZ and the host of the “I Got Love For Ya Show” on the Planet Platypus Radio Network! And he’s just bad ass!
All I can say right now is WOW! This was our first appearance on the, “I Got Love For Ya” Radio Show on the Planet Platypus Radio Network and it turned out to be an instant hit!
I talk about the top 10, hands down, practical take-aways that ANY exotic dancer can use right now to be successful, motivated, and just plain awesome.
Click on the picture to the left or click =>HERE<= to listen right now! It will be money in your pocket ladies!
Here’s the written recap:
1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.
2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!
3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!
4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!
5. Never hold back. Hesitation never takes you beyond the boundaries that keep you down, so don’t be afraid to take a few calculated risks. Work as hard as you can, and never leave money on the table that you have earned and you deserve.
6. Remember that every client is a billion-dollar customer. That person is the most important person in the world to you in the moments you spend with him. Treat others like you want to be treated and good things will come back to you in return.
Click here to read more >>Top 5 Ways to Avoid Burn Out as an Exotic Dancer FAQ
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Apr
23
2013
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Take a moment to pace yourself, rest, get recharged, and get back into the game!
Many exotic dancers from across the globe get that “burned out” or “jaded” feeling. It could happen after 2 years or 10 years. It just depends on the person. Melissa from Maryland asked us the following question:
“I’ve been a dancer for about 5 years now and I’m starting to get really tired of the same song and dance. So how can I stay fresh, keep making “new girl” money during my entire career, and avoid feeling like my money and my career is out of my control?”
That is so well put. I had that exact same feeling after a few years and let me tell you, there is nothing worse than being exhausted, walking into the doors of your club and feeling drained and not into it.
It takes a lot of energy to be an exotic dancer. You have to be the host of your own party for hours and hours! So, Here are the TOP ways that will keep you ON FIRE and focused and have fun while you do it, feeling good!
1. Get 8 hours of sleep every night and after work, go home and go to bed as early as possible. Studies have shown that your body repairs itself the most efficiently during the sleeping hours of 10pm to 2am. After that it’s hit or miss unless you get even more than 8 hours of sleep. So if you’re like most entertainers that don’t get off of work until 2:30am to 5am or 6am, don’t go and do anything else after work except shower and sleep. This is so important because I know from experience that if you don’t get sleep, you can get crabby, depressed, sick, and just plain mean! To get to functioning on all four cylinders make sure you go home and sleep after work, not party or go out. Do that on your nights off!
2. Take care of your body and don’t constantly pound it with too much alcohol or smoking. Being sleep deprived plus getting drunk on a regular basis kills your energy not to mention your liver. This will surely get you run down and sick, and then you can’t go make money at all!
3. Space out your meals to five or six small meals a day to keep your blood sugar consistent and even. Eating correctly, like we talk about in our fitness and nutrition section in Freedom V, will keep you energized and feeling and looking good! Energy plus confidence plus good fuel for your body will help you to feel good and have the stamina to give your customers that fantasy experience all night long! Even if you have to take quick breaks during your shift!
4. Go on vacation regularly. Sometimes when you want to quit altogether and get frustrated, angry or depressed about your income or people or customers, just take a nice vacation to somewhere where you can relax and not worry about anything. I did this every several months as a dancer and boy was it worth it. I came back energized and recharged like I was brand new!
5. Be smart with your money and utilize Freedom V principles. Nothing is worse than being stressed because you HAVE to pay rent, etc. Scared money never wins. That’s a gambling term that means that if you go out on the floor desperate for money with deadlines and so forth, without having any money put away as a failsafe, you’ll end up burning yourself out very, very fast. Most women dance for the money and making it is easy compared to keeping it. Learn how to keep it so you won’t get put in a terrible situation!
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
Click here to read more >>Your Boyfriend as a Stripper: The Top 5 Standards You Should Have
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Mar
6
2013
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The great sex, partying, or whatever you do with an under-par boyfriend is never worth the effort. Find a man that lifts you up in life, not one who puts you down.
(by Jennifer McCumber) I’ve heard enough and I’ve seen enough in strip clubs, strippers personal lives, and the drama and devastation that exotic dancers can face when they have a boyfriend that is leaching off of them either emotionally or monetarily. You may have a boyfriend that is jealous of what you do, or you may have gone on dates where a guy just can’t handle the fact that you are a stripper.
You may even be supporting a boyfriend, letting them live at your apartment or house for free, all while they spend all day playing Wii or having a job that is a low-paying job where they aren’t going anywhere but down or staying stagnant in their lives.
Whatever the case may be for you in particular, like if you have fights all of the time with the man in your life, or breaking up and getting back together – whatever – I have been there and I can tell you that it really sucks. It also affects your self esteem and your income in the club.
When you are around people that bring you down in life, that is exactly where YOU will end up, wondering what will become of your life and if your dreams will ever become a reality.
So, after I got rid of the downer men in my life and found a fantastic one, I thought about all of the positive things that he has done for me, my career, and my mental outlook and I want to share these things with you so that you too can find someone that genuinely cares about you more than just your body.
It’s time to take out the garbage ladies!
Standard Number One: He must
Click here to read more >>Toxic Coworkers: Top 3 Ways to Deal with This as a Stripper
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Jan
29
2013
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I'm sure you've seen this before! It's better to diffuse the conflict rather than get into a cat fight!
By Jennifer McCumber. Some people who work in the gentlemen’s club industry aren’t exactly the most amiable individuals. There will be many of your coworkers who will be rough around the edges, snobbish, rude, belligerent, uncouth, and downright mean. I haven’t had too many issues with this, but the instances that I have dealt with are certainly worth mentioning.
Public humiliation isn’t a matter of if it happens, but when. Even your clients will do it sometimes. I remember walking through the door to my dressing room one night to get dressed and ready for action. I put on my sexiest outfit – which is, in fact, pictured all over the blog as one of my top five best outfits. When I walked out of the dressing room, another dancer said to me, “You know, I think you’re getting too big in the shoulders. Don’t you think you need to tone it down on the workouts?”
She said this to me this in front of ALL of the other dancers. And was dead serious. Everyone just kind of stopped what they were doing and looked at us, and I was so embarrassed. Of course, she herself was only five feet tall and very out of shape. In my heels, I’m 6’2’’, and standing next to her I made her seem like a dwarf in comparison. I was also just starting out with my fitness modeling routines, and had just gotten back from Venice, CA.
This is the outfit that I looked too "manly" in. I don't think so! Ha ha!
I blew it off, which is certainly one way to handle it. The other way would be to stand up for myself, which I was never really good at doing, especially growing up. I had also had toxic boyfriends in the past that tried to rule me, change me, and tell me that I wasn’t good enough just being me.
Isn’t it funny how we never think to say what we really want to say when we are in these situations? You always think about it later and wish you would have ripped into them!
But then, that isn’t a good solution either, especially since you will have to work with these people. It’s not a good idea to burn bridges, or even pass along gossip. Trust me, news travels fast about what he said/she said.
All in all, The best way to deal with these situations is:
1. Get the offender away from the scene and away from other people.
2. Ask them in private, “Well, what did you really mean by that?” Let them talk. Don’t put them on the defensive or cast blame. Give them a chance to apologize or explain.
3. Let them know if they have something derogatory to say, to at least tell you in private or call you. By saying this in front of your coworkers, it just puts everyone in an uncomfortable spot.
If they still choose to disrespect you:
1. Just blow this person off and keep the relationship as businesslike as possible; i.e. “hello,” “goodbye,” etc.
2. Request not to work with them anymore if possible, and only be around them if you have to.
3. Don’t tip this person out as much as you do others if applicable: if you walk softly and carry a big stick, i.e. not being mean or confrontational, but hitting them in the pocket where it hurts, then they will back off.
4. Know that you don’t have to deal with these people for very long, and then don’t worry about it. Turn your nervous energy into lap dances and VIPs! Let it make you better at what you do.
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!
Click here to read more >>Top 10 Keys to Success as an Exotic Dancer
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Jan
4
2013
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Happy New Year! Cheers to your success as an exotic dancer! Click this picture to step up your A Game!
Here is a concise list of the top 10 ways that you can be successful as an exotic dancer – whether you are just learning how to become a stripper or whether you’ve been dancing for 10 years. It will also embed success skills for when you move on in your life and in your career. Having this visual in your locker, dressing room, mirror or refrigerator will work wonders at helping you to stay on your A game!
Hi! I’m Jennifer McCumber, Author of Freedom V, Creator of the Champagne Inner Circle and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.
Here are the Top 10 things you need:
1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.
2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!
3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!
4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!
Click here to read more >>How to Be a Stripper: 5 Ways To Calm Your Nerves and Build Confidence
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Dec
28
2012
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Don't let negative thoughts about yourself affect you in the club!
I have gotten a LOAD of ladies asking me how to calm their nerves and have confidence on stage and with their customers. This is a very important question because if you can’t learn to control your nervous energy and shift it into a substantial and positive presence for your customers – you just plain won’t do well!
It’s all about your mindset. You have to evaluate how you think about yourself. Do you think you are ugly when you look in the mirror? Are you afraid of rejection or people thinking negatively of you? Are you constantly comparing yourself to the other dancers? You are going to have to overcome these and turn your negative thoughts about yourself into positive ones!
Here are the top five ways you can calm those nerves every single day before you go into work!
1. Get in front of your mirror every day before you go to work and look at yourself and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Tell yourself that You deserve the finer things in life. You are a lady and you will conduct yourself with charisma and class. Believe it! And then practice being sexy and seductive by talking to yourself and coming up with your own lines to tell your customers in front of your mirror. You have to learn to love the sight of your OWN self if you are going to convince a customer to love you!
2. Make sure you dress to impress. Having the best clothes in the club will make you feel special and important compared to the other dancers who are not as well kept as you are! In addition, go heavy on the makeup and hair! Do those smokey eyes and well-done hair dews! This will make you feel prepared to go out and entertain with confidence and strut your stuff!
3. Practice MAKING EYE contact with everyone that you speak with in a strategic way. Too much eye contact and you look desperate. Too little and you look aloof. This is an important attribute for you to get really good if you are going to get those nerves from scared to confident!
Think of Confident Kate or another strong female role model!
4. Arrive to work early. I know this sounds completely unrelated but it’s not. If you get to work early and get in the groove of things earlier than most of the other dancers – you’ll be more into it and you’ll have hopefully made a little money in the earlier hours. Money makes you so much more confident and driven to keep rolling with a great money making night! So get to work early to get warmed up and save on your house fee to boot!
5. Just be yourself. Sure you can mimic a persona at the club to add to the fantasy, but when you are real and genuine with your conversation and interactions with your customers and co workers, you won’t have to worry about being fake or ditsy. Psychologically you will feel much better about yourself and much more confident on stage and speaking with clients.
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!
Click here to read more >>Is Learning How to Be a Stripper Morally OK?
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Sep
22
2012
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Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.
I get a lot of women asking questions on the blog in regards to the moral and ethical implications of exotic dancing. Sara from Louisiana wrote in and asked the following:
I’m a single mother and I just had a baby a year ago. I’ve gone back to work but nothing can seem to pay the bills and provide for my child in the way that I really want to take care of him. And besides – I always have to be away – but the question I really have is, since I’ve been thinking about becoming an exotic dancer will I have to do anything that involves sex or inappropriate touching? I have a hard enough time with the thought of being topless or nude, I just don’t want to get into something where my values will end up being compromised. I don’t want to have to tell my son one day that I did something that I was ashamed of. Please help.
This is a VERY good question and Sara has good reason to ask these things. The stereotypical myths of the profession are alive and well and they are falsely indoctrinated into our culture by certain frightened organized institutions. It’s no different than discriminating against people because of their race or religion or gender.
Exotic dancers are very misunderstood but it’s because so many people refuse to look at the current day facts – there are always two sides to every story.
Click here to read more >>Getting Your Mindset Right as an Exotic Dancer
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Apr
13
2012
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I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications Magazine and I’m leading the movement for dancer education at clubs across the country as well as online.
It is easy to be dragged down by someone else who is unsuccessful or miserable, especially if you are considering exploring a business like exotic dancing which so few people really understand. It’s an example of “crab theory;” when a crab tries to escape from a bucket of water and break free from the others, they will pull him back into the water. The same thing happens with people – individuals and organized groups – such as clubs, families, friends, partners, religious groups and even entire cultures. Anyone who goes against what everyone else is doing will get abused for it. But being different is the only way that you can ever become exceptional.
Being an Exotic Dancer - done right - is as elegant as any other performing arts. Take it from the music professor here!
Here are five core beliefs you must adopt in order to be successful with exotic dancing. These will help you stay positive and focused on stage, and off stage, too:
1. My body is a masterpiece; showing it does not make me ashamed or embarrassed. I get to do something exceptional that most people never experience first-hand. I provide personal, elite-level entertainment and fantasy by graciously sharing my beauty and charisma with an appreciative audience. I live what others only dream of.
2. I deserve the maximum potential income because I am beautiful, I make people’s evening an experience like no other, I keep my body in shape because my body is my business, and I work very late hours. I take pride in working hard at an honest living.
3. I am a professional performer and as such I deserve to be paid the same as any other actor, musician or dancer.
4. I am an actress, and my purpose at a club is to provide a night of fantasy and clean fun. My clients have a movie right in their lap and it is a fantasy performance. It is all make– believe, and that is understood.
5. I will make my clients feel like a billion dollars: important, special, intelligent, handsome – because no other woman in his life does this for him. It’s the reason he is here and willing to spend his money for my company in a Champagne Room. It’s a win–win proposition, and I will give a man the best night he has ever spent with a gorgeous woman – without even having sex!
I would love to hear your feedback so comment on the blog BELOW! “Like” our Facebook page called Freedom V for Exotic Dancers and our Twitter at FreedomVstrip. This is Jennifer McCumber here with how-to-strip.com wishing you the best of success!
Click here to read more >>Exotic Dancing Becomes Socially Acceptable from Society Shifts
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Mar
13
2012
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From women who’ve worked on Wall Street to women paying their way through college, exotic dancing has saved many women’s lives, careers, and even their children from the alternative of moms loosing their homes and even their jobs in this economy. All without having to compromise their moral values like in much of the infamous myths about this profession!
If you are apprehensive about doing this business of exotic dance I completely understand! Or maybe you have taken the plunge and there are people in your life that have a big problem with it. This apprehension happens mostly because society has always trained women to do only what is traditionally considered ladylike, socially acceptable, and polite. This is why most women in the previous century were either teachers, nurses, or secretaries – not that those things are bad at all – but what if a lady didn’t want to do that? What if she wanted to be an engineer? Too Bad – secretary school for her! Women were also told to cover their ankles and shoulders because it was provocative. I say that trying to control women’s decisions, lives, and limiting their options of FREEDOM for the sake of ego, power, and medieval ideals is the most horrid evil around! However, things are a lot different now than they used to be, and there are quite a few examples of this.
Here I am as a Hooters Girl in College!
Consider the following points of reference.
Working at Hooters. Before I became an exotic dancer, like so many young college women today, around my sophomore year in college I became a Hooters girl. The truth is that exotic dancing is very similar to a Hooters waitressing job; really there is not a huge difference between the two. You wear tight clothes, show cleavage, promote a fun atmosphere – and you get hit on by the clientele quite a bit. At Hooters there are many beautiful women all working in one place, and men come there seeking interaction and entertainment.
At Hooters, there are beautiful, friendly women working there that men avidly come in to talk to. These women give men a “GFE”—girlfriend experience—with an attractive young lady who will simply sit down with them and talk to them about their day. This is exactly what exotic dancers do. We will show men or women that we are interested in who they are and what they have to say, not just in selling them our looks, food, or drinks.
There is, however, one major difference: the income! It’s amazing that I worked hundreds of hours at Hooters during my two–year stay, but within the first few months of being a dancer I made much more money than I ever could have dreamed of making at Hooters.
This is just one example of how exotic dancing is like any other established, respectable business. It all comes down to sales and marketing: The business aspect of exotic dancing is like running and promoting any other company, and it is the best business education you can get as a young person because there is little risk, no going into debt, no overhead and you have no employees. Just you, starting with the basics and learning how to be independently wealthy without the headache of having to get a business loan or please investors on the chance that you might make a profit.
Click here to read more >>Misbelieves and Truths on How to Become a Stripper
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Feb
26
2012
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From women who’ve worked on Wall Street to women paying their way through college, exotic dancing has saved many women’s lives, careers, and even their children from the alternative of moms loosing their homes and even their jobs in this economy. I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications Magazine and I’m leading the movement for dancer development at clubs across the country as well as online.
There are some misbeliefs that we need to burst before we immerse ourselves in further discussion of exotic dancing.
There are some things that are more valuable than money.
Misbelief Number One: All exotic dancers are prostitutes who trade sexual favors for money. This dangerous and offensive myth is absolutely and positively not true. In every profession, there are promiscuous women, and exotic dancing is no exception. However, there are an abundance of educated and respectable women – wives, virgins, moms and deeply religious women – in this and all other industries.
Much of this issue depends on what club you choose. If it is a high–end club with strict rules, you will have far less “funny business” going on. Most dancers I know are absolutely against prostitution; they simply dance, talk and entertain, just like I did. You do not have to do anything intimately sexual to be successful and make a ton of money dancing. Just conjure the illusion of fantasy and sex appeal by using your creativity!
One thing you have to remember as a dancer is that you provide what I like to call The Human Experience. Men don’t come to clubs just for alcohol because they can get that at their local liquor store. They don’t come to clubs just for a lap dance, either, because if they want to see naked women they could pick up an issue of Playboy for much less. What they come to the club for is to experience that human interaction with a live, warm, smiling female with personality (and a nice body) to talk to and to make them feel special.
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