Check Us Out at The “I Got Love For Ya” Show On the Planet Platypus Radio Network!
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May
14
2013
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Aaron Duarte is the HEAD DJ at Jaguars in Phoenix, AZ and the host of the “I Got Love For Ya Show” on the Planet Platypus Radio Network! And he’s just bad ass!
All I can say right now is WOW! This was our first appearance on the, “I Got Love For Ya” Radio Show on the Planet Platypus Radio Network and it turned out to be an instant hit!
I talk about the top 10, hands down, practical take-aways that ANY exotic dancer can use right now to be successful, motivated, and just plain awesome.
Click on the picture to the left or click =>HERE<= to listen right now! It will be money in your pocket ladies!
Here’s the written recap:
1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.
2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!
3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!
4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!
5. Never hold back. Hesitation never takes you beyond the boundaries that keep you down, so don’t be afraid to take a few calculated risks. Work as hard as you can, and never leave money on the table that you have earned and you deserve.
6. Remember that every client is a billion-dollar customer. That person is the most important person in the world to you in the moments you spend with him. Treat others like you want to be treated and good things will come back to you in return.
Click here to read more >>Top 5 Ways to Avoid Burn Out as an Exotic Dancer FAQ
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Apr
23
2013
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Take a moment to pace yourself, rest, get recharged, and get back into the game!
Many exotic dancers from across the globe get that “burned out” or “jaded” feeling. It could happen after 2 years or 10 years. It just depends on the person. Melissa from Maryland asked us the following question:
“I’ve been a dancer for about 5 years now and I’m starting to get really tired of the same song and dance. So how can I stay fresh, keep making “new girl” money during my entire career, and avoid feeling like my money and my career is out of my control?”
That is so well put. I had that exact same feeling after a few years and let me tell you, there is nothing worse than being exhausted, walking into the doors of your club and feeling drained and not into it.
It takes a lot of energy to be an exotic dancer. You have to be the host of your own party for hours and hours! So, Here are the TOP ways that will keep you ON FIRE and focused and have fun while you do it, feeling good!
1. Get 8 hours of sleep every night and after work, go home and go to bed as early as possible. Studies have shown that your body repairs itself the most efficiently during the sleeping hours of 10pm to 2am. After that it’s hit or miss unless you get even more than 8 hours of sleep. So if you’re like most entertainers that don’t get off of work until 2:30am to 5am or 6am, don’t go and do anything else after work except shower and sleep. This is so important because I know from experience that if you don’t get sleep, you can get crabby, depressed, sick, and just plain mean! To get to functioning on all four cylinders make sure you go home and sleep after work, not party or go out. Do that on your nights off!
2. Take care of your body and don’t constantly pound it with too much alcohol or smoking. Being sleep deprived plus getting drunk on a regular basis kills your energy not to mention your liver. This will surely get you run down and sick, and then you can’t go make money at all!
3. Space out your meals to five or six small meals a day to keep your blood sugar consistent and even. Eating correctly, like we talk about in our fitness and nutrition section in Freedom V, will keep you energized and feeling and looking good! Energy plus confidence plus good fuel for your body will help you to feel good and have the stamina to give your customers that fantasy experience all night long! Even if you have to take quick breaks during your shift!
4. Go on vacation regularly. Sometimes when you want to quit altogether and get frustrated, angry or depressed about your income or people or customers, just take a nice vacation to somewhere where you can relax and not worry about anything. I did this every several months as a dancer and boy was it worth it. I came back energized and recharged like I was brand new!
5. Be smart with your money and utilize Freedom V principles. Nothing is worse than being stressed because you HAVE to pay rent, etc. Scared money never wins. That’s a gambling term that means that if you go out on the floor desperate for money with deadlines and so forth, without having any money put away as a failsafe, you’ll end up burning yourself out very, very fast. Most women dance for the money and making it is easy compared to keeping it. Learn how to keep it so you won’t get put in a terrible situation!
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
Click here to read more >>The Truth About Breast Augmentation, the Recovery, and Life After
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Mar
20
2013
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My breasts came out pretty good. I can make them look natural or wear a push up that adds some nice cleavage!
(by Jennifer McCumber) Having breast augmentation is something that every exotic dancer at least thinks about at some point in their career. About 50% of all exotic dancers DO end up making the choice for enhancement. You might be doing research right now on things you need to know, risks, rewards, recovery time and what to expect before, during, and after your surgery.
As a breast augmentation patient myself – I can tell you from experience all of the information that took me months and months to find – all in this video. I grew up around plastic surgery as my grandfather is the premier plastic and reconstructive surgeon in north florida. I’ve had quite a few procedures done and I’ve been around the business for a long time.
Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.
Recovery from breast augmentation takes about three weeks to get back to fully functioning again. You should plan on taking two weeks off from work because you will not be able to lift your arms above your head or carry anything – if you opt to get your implants inserted underneath your chest muscles rather than above them, which most women do. The doctors will advise you to keep your elbows hitched to your sides so that the internal stitches and implants can have a chance to heal in the correct position that they were placed.
After about two weeks you’ll be able to do really basic and gentle activities again and after three weeks, if the surgeon was indeed good, you will be able to get back into athletics and whatever you were doing before your surgery ever happened!
During the 12 hours before surgery you cannot eat or drink anything because you will be under general anesthesia. The most common side effect of anesthesia is nausea, so if you’ve had surgery before and know that will be an issue, just ask for extra anti-nausea medication to be combined with your anesthesia medication.
Waking up after anesthesia is a very unique experience.
Click here to read more >>Toxic Coworkers: Top 3 Ways to Deal with This as a Stripper
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Jan
29
2013
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I'm sure you've seen this before! It's better to diffuse the conflict rather than get into a cat fight!
By Jennifer McCumber. Some people who work in the gentlemen’s club industry aren’t exactly the most amiable individuals. There will be many of your coworkers who will be rough around the edges, snobbish, rude, belligerent, uncouth, and downright mean. I haven’t had too many issues with this, but the instances that I have dealt with are certainly worth mentioning.
Public humiliation isn’t a matter of if it happens, but when. Even your clients will do it sometimes. I remember walking through the door to my dressing room one night to get dressed and ready for action. I put on my sexiest outfit – which is, in fact, pictured all over the blog as one of my top five best outfits. When I walked out of the dressing room, another dancer said to me, “You know, I think you’re getting too big in the shoulders. Don’t you think you need to tone it down on the workouts?”
She said this to me this in front of ALL of the other dancers. And was dead serious. Everyone just kind of stopped what they were doing and looked at us, and I was so embarrassed. Of course, she herself was only five feet tall and very out of shape. In my heels, I’m 6’2’’, and standing next to her I made her seem like a dwarf in comparison. I was also just starting out with my fitness modeling routines, and had just gotten back from Venice, CA.
This is the outfit that I looked too "manly" in. I don't think so! Ha ha!
I blew it off, which is certainly one way to handle it. The other way would be to stand up for myself, which I was never really good at doing, especially growing up. I had also had toxic boyfriends in the past that tried to rule me, change me, and tell me that I wasn’t good enough just being me.
Isn’t it funny how we never think to say what we really want to say when we are in these situations? You always think about it later and wish you would have ripped into them!
But then, that isn’t a good solution either, especially since you will have to work with these people. It’s not a good idea to burn bridges, or even pass along gossip. Trust me, news travels fast about what he said/she said.
All in all, The best way to deal with these situations is:
1. Get the offender away from the scene and away from other people.
2. Ask them in private, “Well, what did you really mean by that?” Let them talk. Don’t put them on the defensive or cast blame. Give them a chance to apologize or explain.
3. Let them know if they have something derogatory to say, to at least tell you in private or call you. By saying this in front of your coworkers, it just puts everyone in an uncomfortable spot.
If they still choose to disrespect you:
1. Just blow this person off and keep the relationship as businesslike as possible; i.e. “hello,” “goodbye,” etc.
2. Request not to work with them anymore if possible, and only be around them if you have to.
3. Don’t tip this person out as much as you do others if applicable: if you walk softly and carry a big stick, i.e. not being mean or confrontational, but hitting them in the pocket where it hurts, then they will back off.
4. Know that you don’t have to deal with these people for very long, and then don’t worry about it. Turn your nervous energy into lap dances and VIPs! Let it make you better at what you do.
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!
Click here to read more >>Jennifer McCumber on the DJ Platypus Show: How To Make More Money Now By Building a Better Exotic Dancer
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Jan
24
2013
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"If Cash Is King, the Entertainers Are Queen"
By Jennifer McCumber. I had the privilege of being featured on the DJ Platypus Radio Show on Tuesday night and it JUST came out for your listening pleasure! But we’ll get to the show in a moment!
DJ Platypus is one of the most legendary DJs in the Strip Club industry, working for Rick’s Cabaret at Tootsie’s in Miami and managing all of the other DJs in the Rick’s Cabaret Chain – now 36 clubs strong. One hell of an achievement. And he does an outstanding job at it.
This particular show was revolutionary and very vital to our industry in a few ways. One, it shows how when the going gets tough, we stick together and support each other like a family.
Daisy Duxe, one of the hosts of the weekly show and also now the marketing director of Tootsie’s Cabaret in Miami, FL, almost didn’t make it after going to the hospital and had to be put on borer-line life support for an intense kidney infection and all other kinds of things that went wrong with the beautiful, young and intelligent lady.
She managed to call into the show last night and for the first 20 minutes of the show Plat, Johnny Walker and Mr. and Mrs. Voice spoke with her over the phone from her hospital bed where she is finally recovering. What a trooper!
As promised, I said on Facebook that I would mention WHY I feel her pain. It’s one of the reasons you ladies out there shouldn’t take your career for granted because your body has a limited amount of years to do this kind of work. You are an athlete, a businesswoman and an entertainer all in one! It’s easy to feel invincible and on cloud nine when you’re on stage, but the one thing we cannot escape is our own immortality.
This is the REAL reason why you've seen me wear scarves in some of my videos! Don't worry though, the battle scars are healing now!
Late last year I was hospitalized and had to have two neck surgeries due to some athletic injuries to fix a condition called Thoracic Outlet Syndrome. I didn’t have the fatal kind, but it can turn fatal if left untreated, and just the pain and suffering of being in the hospital sick, having a 6-7 hour surgery twice, and being in excruciating pain – I truly felt sorry and I felt her pain as she was finally able to talk over the phone for the first segment of our show on Tuesday.
When times get tough you really appreciate your health and you certainly won’t ever take it for granted again. The opportunity to exotic dance is a very limited time – 10, 15 years if you’re lucky, which is why we talked about what we did on the show – how can we build a better exotic dancer NOW? How can strip clubs make more money NOW? If CASH is KING, the entertainers are certainly QUEEN, and the issue in our industry MUST be addressed about how we can create a win-win situation with clubs AND exotic dancers working TOGETHER to make their customers happy, and come back over and over again!
Without further ado, you can listen to the show by clicking =>HERE<= or the picture below! Our segment starts at 20 minutes into the show!
The One and Only DJ Platypus Radio Show!
EXPO Panel Sessions in 2010!
From exciting stripper tales to my experiences at doing rock-star style, transformational seminars at clubs, the main theme of the show was how clubs can attract and build the best entertainers possible. The DJ Plat crew got to know me last night for the first time (it was a virginal experience!) and they all came to the conclusion that Freedom V and the following top 10 principles (although they didn’t get to ALL of them last night on the show) is what the industry needs to solve their entertainer problems and raise their bottom line.
Ladies – I’m going to address the club owners and managers for a moment and I want to hear your feedback and comments on the blog as to what you think of these 10 things. Do you have them at your club? If you DON’T and you did, would you feel more motivated and incentivised to work longer and harder to reap more rewards? IE More money!? Because if you haven’t realized this already, how much money the club makes is in direct proportion to how much YOU will make as an entertainer. You are irrevocably linked and when one suffers the other suffers. So…
Whether you’re a blue-collar club or part of a major club chain, there’s virtually no adult night club that wouldn’t want to add more quality entertainers to their current “line-up” of girls, no matter how crowded their dressing room is on a Saturday night. So what do you do to attract the best entertainers to work in YOUR club over another? What are the top 10 ways to build a better stripper and love the ones you’re with?
Click here to read more >>Top 10 Keys to Success as an Exotic Dancer
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Jan
4
2013
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Happy New Year! Cheers to your success as an exotic dancer! Click this picture to step up your A Game!
Here is a concise list of the top 10 ways that you can be successful as an exotic dancer – whether you are just learning how to become a stripper or whether you’ve been dancing for 10 years. It will also embed success skills for when you move on in your life and in your career. Having this visual in your locker, dressing room, mirror or refrigerator will work wonders at helping you to stay on your A game!
Hi! I’m Jennifer McCumber, Author of Freedom V, Creator of the Champagne Inner Circle and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.
Here are the Top 10 things you need:
1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.
2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!
3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!
4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!
Click here to read more >>How to Be a Stripper: 5 Ways To Calm Your Nerves and Build Confidence
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Dec
28
2012
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Don't let negative thoughts about yourself affect you in the club!
I have gotten a LOAD of ladies asking me how to calm their nerves and have confidence on stage and with their customers. This is a very important question because if you can’t learn to control your nervous energy and shift it into a substantial and positive presence for your customers – you just plain won’t do well!
It’s all about your mindset. You have to evaluate how you think about yourself. Do you think you are ugly when you look in the mirror? Are you afraid of rejection or people thinking negatively of you? Are you constantly comparing yourself to the other dancers? You are going to have to overcome these and turn your negative thoughts about yourself into positive ones!
Here are the top five ways you can calm those nerves every single day before you go into work!
1. Get in front of your mirror every day before you go to work and look at yourself and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Tell yourself that You deserve the finer things in life. You are a lady and you will conduct yourself with charisma and class. Believe it! And then practice being sexy and seductive by talking to yourself and coming up with your own lines to tell your customers in front of your mirror. You have to learn to love the sight of your OWN self if you are going to convince a customer to love you!
2. Make sure you dress to impress. Having the best clothes in the club will make you feel special and important compared to the other dancers who are not as well kept as you are! In addition, go heavy on the makeup and hair! Do those smokey eyes and well-done hair dews! This will make you feel prepared to go out and entertain with confidence and strut your stuff!
3. Practice MAKING EYE contact with everyone that you speak with in a strategic way. Too much eye contact and you look desperate. Too little and you look aloof. This is an important attribute for you to get really good if you are going to get those nerves from scared to confident!
Think of Confident Kate or another strong female role model!
4. Arrive to work early. I know this sounds completely unrelated but it’s not. If you get to work early and get in the groove of things earlier than most of the other dancers – you’ll be more into it and you’ll have hopefully made a little money in the earlier hours. Money makes you so much more confident and driven to keep rolling with a great money making night! So get to work early to get warmed up and save on your house fee to boot!
5. Just be yourself. Sure you can mimic a persona at the club to add to the fantasy, but when you are real and genuine with your conversation and interactions with your customers and co workers, you won’t have to worry about being fake or ditsy. Psychologically you will feel much better about yourself and much more confident on stage and speaking with clients.
YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have! Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!
You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:
This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!
Click here to read more >>How to Be a Stripper: The Top Four Credentials Your Plastic Surgeon Needs
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Oct
29
2012
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- Having a conservative plastic surgeon is always good in the long run! Look how it turned out in my case!!
I know it can be difficult to decide on which plastic surgeon to choose, so I’m going to dive right into the qualifications you need to look for when you are considering plastic surgery!
Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications Magazine and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer development all over the world.
Keep this in mind first: Any surgeon who is willing to distort and stretch the skin to a point of no return in order to create over-sized breasts on your body does not care about your well being nor the inherent side effects that having such large breasts could wreak on your back, chest muscles, shoulders, skin, and nipples. Why would you want to do that to yourself anyway?
Beauty is pain, and these invasive procedures are rather painful. It does pay you in the long run as a professional dancer to have your boobs done if they need extra size. But please don’t ruin perfectly great boobs if you already have them, just to be bigger!
Make sure your chosen surgeon has current membership in these groups. These are the four credentials you are looking for:
1. American Society of Plastic Surgeons
2. American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery
3. The American Medical Association
4. Any Other Local associations for medicine and plastic surgery
There are many health care providers who perform plastic surgery procedures, but you need to be aware that they are not necessarily certified plastic surgeons. Only ASPS Member Surgeons are truly qualified to perform cosmetic and reconstructive surgeries of any kind.
American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) member surgeons have been fully certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery (ABPS), or by the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons in Canada. The ABPS is approved to certify plastic surgeons for practice by the American Board of Medical Specialties (ABMS), in particular for surgery to the face, but for other areas of the body as well.
Click here to read more >>Christina Aguchi on How to Be a Successful Stripper!
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Oct
1
2012
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Christina Aguchi interviewed by Jennifer McCumber at the 2012 EXPO in Las Vegas. Christina was Entertainer of the Year in 2011 and is a pole dancing maniac! See what she has to say about dancer education and how entertainers today can be better for themselves and their clubs! Have more and be more!
Click here to read more >>Stripper FAQ’s: How Can I Dance During My Menstrual Cycle?
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Sep
18
2012
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We can do it! Just learn how to manage your symptoms!
Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.
I’ve gotten the infamous question about exotic dancing during your menstrual cycle. While this may seem gross to some of you this is a very real issue that exotic dancers have to deal with! Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as it sounds!
Rachel from North Carolina commented on the blog the following question, “Is it smart to dance while you’re on your cycle? If you dance at a topless or especially a fully nude club, how can this happen? Do you have to take a few days off? And what about the cramps and dealing with everything emotionally?”
The answer is – you can absolutely dance during your menstrual cycle! There is a little trick with a tampon that you can easily do. You take it out of the package and you grab a pair of scissors and you cut off about 3/4 of the string at the end. You leave just enough to be able to retrieve the tampon at the appropriate time! In this way you won’t have a dangling string that is showing and no mess either! Just play around with this idea and you’ll quickly see how effective this is!
Now on to the mental and emotional part. This will be a more difficult task but there are plenty of over-the-counter medications that can help with the discomfort. But what about emotionally? Yes you may be more sensitive to something or someone setting you off, and I have seen so many dancers let this get the best of them and they have a miserable night and end up making little money!
Practice the art of making a conscious choice about what you let bother you. If something happens that you feel a freak out session coming on – just pause for a moment, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Am I really going to benefit if I get angry right now? Could this have a negative impact on me?”
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