Check Us Out at The “I Got Love For Ya” Show On the Planet Platypus Radio Network!

May 14 2013

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All I can say right now is WOW!  This was our first appearance on the, “I Got Love For Ya” Radio Show on the Planet Platypus Radio Network and it turned out to be an instant hit!

I talk about the top 10, hands down, practical take-aways that ANY exotic dancer can use right now to be successful, motivated, and just plain awesome.

Click on the picture to the left or click =>HERE<= to listen right now!  It will be money in your pocket ladies!

Here’s the written recap:

1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.
2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!

3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!

4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!

5. Never hold back. Hesitation never takes you beyond the boundaries that keep you down, so don’t be afraid to take a few calculated risks. Work as hard as you can, and never leave money on the table that you have earned and you deserve.

6. Remember that every client is a billion-dollar customer. That person is the most important person in the world to you in the moments you spend with him. Treat others like you want to be treated and good things will come back to you in return.

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Top 5 Ways to Avoid Burn Out as an Exotic Dancer FAQ

Apr 23 2013

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Many exotic dancers from across the globe get that “burned out” or “jaded” feeling.  It could happen after 2 years or 10 years.  It just depends on the person.  Melissa from Maryland asked us the following question:

“I’ve been a dancer for about 5 years now and I’m starting to get really tired of the same song and dance.  So how can I stay fresh, keep making “new girl” money during my entire career, and avoid feeling like my money and my career is out of my control?”

That is so well put.  I had that exact same feeling after a few years and let me tell you, there is nothing worse than being exhausted, walking into the doors of your club and feeling drained and not into it.

It takes a lot of energy to be an exotic dancer.  You have to be the host of your own party for hours and hours!  So, Here are the TOP ways that will keep you ON FIRE and focused and have fun while you do it, feeling good!

1.  Get 8 hours of sleep every night and after work, go home and go to bed as early as possible.  Studies have shown that your body repairs itself the most efficiently during the sleeping hours of 10pm to 2am.  After that it’s hit or miss unless you get even more than 8 hours of sleep.  So if you’re like most entertainers that don’t get off of work until 2:30am to 5am or 6am, don’t go and do anything else after work except shower and sleep.  This is so important because I know from experience that if you don’t get sleep, you can get crabby, depressed, sick, and just plain mean!  To get to functioning on all four cylinders make sure you go home and sleep after work, not party or go out.  Do that on your nights off!

2.  Take care of your body and don’t constantly pound it with too much alcohol or smoking.  Being sleep deprived plus getting drunk on a regular basis kills your energy not to mention your liver.  This will surely get you run down and sick, and then you can’t go make money at all!

3.  Space out your meals to five or six small meals a day to keep your blood sugar consistent and even.  Eating correctly, like we talk about in our fitness and nutrition section in Freedom V, will keep you energized and feeling and looking good!  Energy plus confidence plus good fuel for your body will help you to feel good and have the stamina to give your customers that fantasy experience all night long!  Even if you have to take quick breaks during your shift!

4.  Go on vacation regularly.  Sometimes when you want to quit altogether and get frustrated, angry or depressed about your income or people or customers, just take a nice vacation to somewhere where you can relax and not worry about anything. I did this every several months as a dancer and boy was it worth it.  I came back energized and recharged like I was brand new!

5.  Be smart with your money and utilize Freedom V principles.  Nothing is worse than being stressed because you HAVE to pay rent, etc.  Scared money never wins.  That’s a gambling term that means that if you go out on the floor desperate for money with deadlines and so forth, without having any money put away as a failsafe, you’ll end up burning yourself out very, very fast.  Most women dance for the money and making it is easy compared to keeping it.  Learn how to keep it so you won’t get put in a terrible situation!

YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have!  Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!

You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:

Freedom V

Champagne Inner Circle

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Your Boyfriend as a Stripper: The Top 5 Standards You Should Have

Mar 6 2013

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(by Jennifer McCumber) I’ve heard enough and I’ve seen enough in strip clubs, strippers personal lives, and the drama and devastation that exotic dancers can face when they have a boyfriend that is leaching off of them either emotionally or monetarily.  You may have a boyfriend that is jealous of what you do, or you may have gone on dates where a guy just can’t handle the fact that you are a stripper.

You may even be supporting a boyfriend, letting them live at your apartment or house for free, all while they spend all day playing Wii or having a job that is a low-paying job where they aren’t going anywhere but down or staying stagnant in their lives.

Whatever the case may be for you in particular, like if you have fights all of the time with the man in your life, or breaking up and getting back together – whatever – I have been there and I can tell you that it really sucks.  It also affects your self esteem and your income in the club.

When you are around people that bring you down in life, that is exactly where YOU will end up, wondering what will become of your life and if your dreams will ever become a reality.

So, after I got rid of the downer men in my life and found a fantastic one, I thought about all of the positive things that he has done for me, my career, and my mental outlook and I want to share these things with you so that you too can find someone that genuinely cares about you more than just your body.

It’s time to take out the garbage ladies!

Standard Number One:  He must

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“The Life of a Stripper” by Cocktail Waitress Romana Van Lissum

Feb 25 2013

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(by Jennifer McCumber)  Romana Van Lissum delivers extraordinary stories and struggles from strippers who have worked at her home strip club in Vancouver, BC, but who are from all over the world.

The Life of a Stripper is a must read.  It contains the true stories of ladies who have become exotic dancers and their climb through the maze of life in achieving what they want most: Financial Freedom and the choice to choose a career that they love!  While dancing is empowering for them it is not without drama, like most other careers…

Take for example a dancer named Honeysuckle, featured in Romana’s book.  She was a dental assistant at age 25 and had a great, comfortable job with benefits.  She grew up on a farm and had a great family.  She mentioned that she enjoyed a large trampoline, her own horses and she even had her own pottery studio!

Then, after high school her parents got divorced, but never mind that, her mom supported her decision to exotic dance. This is certainly a keeper for a mom!

While she made great money and got tipped really well, she mentioned that the down side to dancing was the bad accommodations that are provided, the bruises from pole dancing and the stigma that comes from a large portion of the population that thinks dancers are not regular people.

Of course, dancing in Canada is very different than dancing in the US.  Most dancers hop from club to club every week or so and work with an agency that makes them travel all of the time, to where dancers in the US, also known as “house dancers,” stay in one club for years and years and can build a very reputable client base that way.  It’s also a lot easier on your body and you can build lasting relationships with the people you work with regularly.

The Life of a Stripper doesn’t hold anything back!  Be prepared for stories of drug addiction, sexual abuse, psycho boyfriends, crooked clubs, and a lot of other things that sound like a typical politician’s story!  Van Lissum has collected 50 true stories from BC’s tops feature entertainers, from the heartbreaking to the glamorous, from the legendary to the comedic…

…the type of questions that everyone wonders about exotic dancers and what is really truth vs. hype!

The Life of a Stripper gives a true glimpse into the mysteries of exotic dancing and the secrets that drive these beautiful women to take their clothes off for a living and to give men a fantasy experience that they won’t soon forget.

To my friend Romana – bravo!  Thank you for sending me an autographed copy of your book!  I couldn’t put it down!

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Toxic Coworkers: Top 3 Ways to Deal with This as a Stripper

Jan 29 2013

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By Jennifer McCumber.  Some people who work in the gentlemen’s club industry aren’t exactly the most amiable individuals. There will be many of your coworkers who will be rough around the edges, snobbish, rude, belligerent, uncouth, and downright mean. I haven’t had too many issues with this, but the instances that I have dealt with are certainly worth mentioning.

Public humiliation isn’t a matter of if it happens, but when. Even your clients will do it sometimes. I remember walking through the door to my dressing room one night to get dressed and ready for action. I put on my sexiest outfit – which is, in fact, pictured all over the blog as one of my top five best outfits. When I walked out of the dressing room, another dancer said to me, “You know, I think you’re getting too big in the shoulders. Don’t you think you need to tone it down on the workouts?”

She said this to me this in front of ALL of the other dancers. And was dead serious. Everyone just kind of stopped what they were doing and looked at us, and I was so embarrassed.  Of course, she herself was only five feet tall and very out of shape. In my heels, I’m 6’2’’, and standing next to her I made her seem like a dwarf in comparison. I was also just starting out with my fitness modeling routines, and had just gotten back from Venice, CA.

I blew it off, which is certainly one way to handle it. The other way would be to stand up for myself, which I was never really good at doing, especially growing up. I had also had toxic boyfriends in the past that tried to rule me, change me, and tell me that I wasn’t good enough just being me.

Isn’t it funny how we never think to say what we really want to say when we are in these situations? You always think about it later and wish you would have ripped into them!

But then, that isn’t a good solution either, especially since you will have to work with these people. It’s not a good idea to burn bridges, or even pass along gossip. Trust me, news travels fast about what he said/she said.

All in all, The best way to deal with these situations is:

1.    Get the offender away from the scene and away from other people.

2.    Ask them in private, “Well, what did you really mean by that?” Let them talk. Don’t put them on the defensive or cast blame. Give them a chance to apologize or explain.

3.    Let them know if they have something derogatory to say, to at least tell you in private or call you. By saying this in front of your coworkers, it just puts everyone in an uncomfortable spot.

If they still choose to disrespect you:

1.    Just blow this person off and keep the relationship as businesslike as possible; i.e. “hello,” “goodbye,” etc.

2.    Request not to work with them anymore if possible, and only be around them if you have to.

3.    Don’t tip this person out as much as you do others if applicable: if you walk softly and carry a big stick, i.e. not being mean or confrontational, but hitting them in the pocket where it hurts, then they will back off.

4.    Know that you don’t have to deal with these people for very long, and then don’t worry about it. Turn your nervous energy into lap dances and VIPs! Let it make you better at what you do.

YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have!  Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!

You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:

Freedom V

Champagne Inner Circle

This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!

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Jennifer McCumber on the DJ Platypus Show: How To Make More Money Now By Building a Better Exotic Dancer

Jan 24 2013

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By Jennifer McCumber.  I had the privilege of being featured on the DJ Platypus Radio Show on Tuesday night and it JUST came out for your listening pleasure!  But we’ll get to the show in a moment!

DJ Platypus is one of the most legendary DJs in the Strip Club industry, working for Rick’s Cabaret at Tootsie’s in Miami and managing all of the other DJs in the Rick’s Cabaret Chain – now 36 clubs strong.  One hell of an achievement.  And he does an outstanding job at it.

This particular show was revolutionary and very vital to our industry in a few ways.  One, it shows how when the going gets tough, we stick together and support each other like a family.

Daisy Duxe, one of the hosts of the weekly show and also now the marketing director of Tootsie’s Cabaret in Miami, FL, almost didn’t make it after going to the hospital and had to be put on borer-line life support for an intense kidney infection and all other kinds of things that went wrong with the beautiful, young and intelligent lady.

She managed to call into the show last night and for the first 20 minutes of the show Plat, Johnny Walker and Mr. and Mrs. Voice spoke with her over the phone from her hospital bed where she is finally recovering.  What a trooper!

As promised, I said on Facebook that I would mention WHY I feel her pain.  It’s one of the reasons you ladies out there shouldn’t take your career for granted because your body has a limited amount of years to do this kind of work.  You are an athlete, a businesswoman and an entertainer all in one!  It’s easy to feel invincible and on cloud nine when you’re on stage, but the one thing we cannot escape is our own immortality.

Late last year I was hospitalized and had to have two neck surgeries due to some athletic injuries to fix a condition called Thoracic Outlet Syndrome.  I didn’t have the fatal kind, but it can turn fatal if left untreated, and just the pain and suffering of being in the hospital sick, having a 6-7 hour surgery twice, and being in excruciating pain – I truly felt sorry and I felt her pain as she was finally able to talk over the phone for the first segment of our show on Tuesday.

When times get tough you really appreciate your health and you certainly won’t ever take it for granted again.  The opportunity to exotic dance is a very limited time – 10, 15 years if you’re lucky, which is why we talked about what we did on the show – how can we build a better exotic dancer NOW?  How can strip clubs make more money NOW?  If CASH is KING, the entertainers are certainly QUEEN, and the issue in our industry MUST be addressed about how we can create a win-win situation with clubs AND exotic dancers working TOGETHER to make their customers happy, and come back over and over again!

Without further ado, you can listen to the show by clicking =>HERE<= or the picture below!  Our segment starts at 20 minutes into the show!

From exciting stripper tales to my experiences at doing rock-star style, transformational seminars at clubs, the main theme of the show was how clubs can attract and build the best entertainers possible.  The DJ Plat crew got to know me last night for the first time (it was a virginal experience!) and they all came to the conclusion that Freedom V and the following top 10 principles (although they didn’t get to ALL of them last night on the show) is what the industry needs to solve their entertainer problems and raise their bottom line.

Ladies – I’m going to address the club owners and managers for a moment and I want to hear your feedback and comments on the blog as to what you think of these 10 things.  Do you have them at your club?  If you DON’T and you did, would you feel more motivated and incentivised to work longer and harder to reap more rewards?  IE More money!?  Because if you haven’t realized this already, how much money the club makes is in direct proportion to how much YOU will make as an entertainer.  You are irrevocably linked and when one suffers the other suffers.  So…

Whether you’re a blue-collar club or part of a major club chain, there’s virtually no adult night club that wouldn’t want to add more quality entertainers to their current “line-up” of girls, no matter how crowded their dressing room is on a Saturday night.  So what do you do to attract the best entertainers to work in YOUR club over another?  What are the top 10 ways to build a better stripper and love the ones you’re with?

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Top 10 Keys to Success as an Exotic Dancer

Jan 4 2013

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Here is a concise list of the top 10 ways that you can be successful as an exotic dancer – whether you are just learning how to become a stripper or whether you’ve been dancing for 10 years.  It will also embed success skills for when you move on in your life and in your career.  Having this visual in your locker, dressing room, mirror or refrigerator will work wonders at helping you to stay on your A game!

Hi!  I’m Jennifer McCumber, Author of Freedom V, Creator of the Champagne Inner Circle and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.

Here are the Top 10 things you need:

1. Find your inner hunger and your inner passion, and commit yourself to living it. Let your desire to attain your dreams fuel your will and your drive to succeed. Be flexible and learn to rebound when obstacles appear. Having tough skin and a solid sense of yourself and your goals is necessary in life and in this business.

2. Determine what you really want out of life. Turn that knowledge into your life goal. What are you willing to do–or do without–in order to achieve it? Write it down and remind yourself daily what you are going to achieve. There is no reward without sacrifice, but the greatest sacrifice is living without reward. Don’t let anything stop you!

3. Always look for a better way. Find more efficient ways of doing things. Find and develop the creativity that lives deep in the core of your true self. We all have it, so pull yours up, call it to action and use it!

4. Love your work! Make a commitment to yourself to become the best dancer in this business. Being great at what you do from your heart and soul is the key to loving and accepting yourself as a whole person, and understanding how very much you are worth. Prove yourself to yourself and no one can ever take that away from you!

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How to Be a Stripper: 5 Ways To Calm Your Nerves and Build Confidence

Dec 28 2012

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I have gotten a LOAD of ladies asking me how to calm their nerves and have confidence on stage and with their customers.  This is a very important question because if you can’t learn to control your nervous energy and shift it into a substantial and positive presence for your customers – you just plain won’t do well!

It’s all about your mindset.  You have to evaluate how you think about yourself.  Do you think you are ugly when you look in the mirror?  Are you afraid of rejection or people thinking negatively of you?  Are you constantly comparing yourself to the other dancers?  You are going to have to overcome these and turn your negative thoughts about yourself into positive ones!

Here are the top five ways you can calm those nerves every single day before you go into work!

1.  Get in front of your mirror every day before you go to work and look at yourself and tell yourself that you are beautiful.  Tell yourself that You deserve the finer things in life.  You are a lady and you will conduct yourself with charisma and class.  Believe it!  And then practice being sexy and seductive by talking to yourself and coming up with your own lines to tell your customers in front of your mirror.   You have to learn to love the sight of your OWN self if you are going to convince a customer to love you!

2.  Make sure you dress to impress.  Having the best clothes in the club will make you feel special and important compared to the other dancers who are not as well kept as you are!  In addition, go heavy on the makeup and hair!  Do those smokey eyes and well-done hair dews!  This will make you feel prepared to go out and entertain with confidence and strut your stuff!

3. Practice MAKING EYE contact with everyone that you speak with in a strategic way.  Too much eye contact and you look desperate.  Too little and you look aloof.  This is an important attribute for you to get really good if you are going to get those nerves from scared to confident!

4.  Arrive to work early.  I know this sounds completely unrelated but it’s not. If you get to work early and get in the groove of things earlier than most of the other dancers – you’ll be more into it and you’ll have hopefully made a little money in the earlier hours.  Money makes you so much more confident and driven to keep rolling with a great money making night!  So get to work early to get warmed up and save on your house fee to boot!

5.  Just be yourself.  Sure you can mimic a persona at the club to add to the fantasy, but when you are real and genuine with your conversation and interactions with your customers and co workers, you won’t have to worry about being fake or ditsy.  Psychologically you will feel much better about yourself and much more confident on stage and speaking with clients.

YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY IMPORTANT TO US – please comment on the blog below with any questions or concerns that you have!  Strippers from around the world are bound to chime in on the discussion!

You can find more in depth videos, education and training on our blog under the following categories in the navigation bar:

Freedom V

Champagne Inner Circle

This is Jennifer McCumber Here wishing you the best of success!

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Is Learning How to Be a Stripper Morally OK?

Sep 22 2012

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Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.

I get a lot of women asking questions on the blog in regards to the moral and ethical implications of exotic dancing.  Sara from Louisiana wrote in and asked the following:

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I’m a single mother and I just had a baby a year ago.  I’ve gone back to work but nothing can seem to pay the bills and provide for my child in the way that I really want to take care of him.  And besides – I always have to be away – but the question I really have is, since I’ve been thinking about becoming an exotic dancer will I have to do anything that involves sex or inappropriate touching?  I have a hard enough time with the thought of being topless or nude, I just don’t want to get into something where my values will end up being compromised.  I don’t want to have to tell my son one day that I did something that I was ashamed of.  Please help.

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This is a VERY good question and Sara has good reason to ask these things.  The stereotypical myths of the profession are alive and well and they are falsely indoctrinated into our culture by certain frightened organized institutions.  It’s no different than discriminating against people because of their race or religion or gender.

Exotic dancers are very misunderstood but it’s because so many people refuse to look at the current day facts – there are always two sides to every story.

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Should I work at a Topless Strip Club or a Full Nude Strip Club? FAQ’s

Sep 6 2012

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Hi I’m Jennifer McCumber, author of Freedom V, feature columnist for ED Publications and I’m leading the movement for exotic dancer education all over the world.

One of the key questions I always get is, “Should I work at a Topless Strip Club or a Full Nude Strip Club?”  Laura out of California made a comment on one of our videos and she said:

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“Ok I really want to become a dancer but I want to know more before I start.. like first off do I have to take all of my clothes off and dance nude?”

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The answer to Laura’s question is, it depends.  Local and state laws vary so much and in fact, are the determining factor of whether or not a club near you is topless or fully nude.  At a topless club you only show your breasts as an exotic dancer and you can keep a G-string on your bottom half.  At a fully nude club you take your top and your bottom off.

But it is never black and white in fully nude clubs.  Some fully nude clubs will allow you to be fully nude on stage while you are away from patrons, and then require that you wear your dancewear when you mingle with customers and give lap dances.  Some fully nude clubs are fully nude on the contingency that they do not serve or sell alcoholic beverages.

On the other hand – Most topless clubs are pretty straightforward in this department.  You will dance to your first song on stage with your dancewear on and then during the second, you will take your top off only.  You also take your top off only during lap dances.  When you are topless, your bottom half is clothed by a g-string.  Most topless only clubs can serve alcohol so you can cautiously have a drink or two with your customer.

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